One of the most powerful coaching questions I have asked was in the context of helping this man reclaim his soul and strength. In our conversation, I said, “When did you give the power to others to castrate you?” Men today are struggling to stand with strength and power. At every turn another man seems…
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In a world of plastic, and veneer we have come to believe a deep lie. The lie is keeping a dark cloud of shame and mediocrity over your marriage. The lie is that “having it all” will bring joy, meaning, and passionate sex in your marriage. The lie that providing her with more things will…
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I was coaching a client this week and asked a simple question: “What are you doing this summer for fun?” He stopped, paused, and then realized he wasn’t making time for himself to have fun. This made me reflect on how easy it is to get caught up in the busyness of life and forget…
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Twenty years ago my first job out of college was coaching boy’s basketball. Playing basketball and learning to teach and develop others to play basketball are two distinct skill sets. I was eager to coach and was overwhelmed with how to get teen boys moving in the same direction. I spent time around the other…
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I got a new journal last year in April that was green and I distinctly remember telling my family that the journal was a symbol of flourishing in the days to come. At the time, I did not know that one of the hardest seasons of my life was ahead of me. I had to…
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If you have spent more than one day in any leadership role you have learned to protect, guard, and armor up against perceived attacks. In fact, this does not apply to leadership roles it is a survival mechanism we all have learned from our formative years as children. All leadership pain comes from relational hurt,…
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In the modern leadership landscape, navigating through chaos and complexity often leaves one feeling overwhelmed, isolated, and anxious. The pressures of leadership can easily tip the scales from healthy to unhealthy, especially when faced with the challenges of managing a marriage alongside professional responsibilities. In such moments of confusion, leaders must anchor themselves in principles…
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In the world of coaching, there’s often a quest for the perfect question—the one that unlocks insights, initiates change, and propels growth. Years ago as an aspiring coach, I too found myself trapped in this pursuit, aiming to craft the ideal query for every situation. However, this relentless pursuit of the “perfect question” led me…
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Our family enjoys immersing ourselves in nature through walks, hikes, and strolls in local parks. One of our favorite hikes, within a reasonable drive, is located north of Whitesboro on what the locals refer to as 377. While not particularly difficult, this hike is quite lengthy. It spans 14.2 miles around Lake Texoma, known as…
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I have been walking alongside a Chief of Staff in their first year in their role and we are crafting a 90-day plan to gather feedback from his colleagues, board, peers, and the CEO. The role of a Chief of Staff is dynamic, complicated, and energizing. The Chief of Staff is a high-capacity leader entrusted…
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The pain of being let go from a job cuts deep. Especially when it is not related to a moral failure or job performance but instead connected to differences in beliefs or not a good cultural fit with the team or larger organization. I know in my own story how the little t trauma of…
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